Playing Small
You weren't being quiet. You were being edited.
The Address
Playing small is living by what other people want from you instead of what you actually think, want, or know. Not being quiet - being edited. It looks like reliability, agreeableness, being easy to work with. This keynote names the pattern everyone in the room recognises instantly, shows the moment it runs - the millisecond before "sounds good" leaves your mouth when it isn't true - and what it takes to catch it.
Key Outcomes
- 1
Name the pattern precisely: not shyness, not modesty - self-editing you learned to run automatically
- 2
Catch the True North millisecond: the moment before the comfortable answer leaves your mouth
- 3
Map your vendors: the specific people you still check with before you commit to anything
- 4
Understand repossession - taking back the job of running yourself. Not rebuilding: the self was never destroyed, just operated by someone else
Paired Workshop
The Three Audits
A guided session through the Life Audit, the Pattern Audit and the Repossession Audit: where playing small is running your life, which pattern you live in most, and who you would be if you weren't.
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